Divorcement Trouble With My Parents

[Wemb]

that stuff really works!!!!!!!

source: me currently



But for real; stay strong man. it will definitely get better, you may have to tough it through, but let that build you into a better person. Become more independant, learn to do things for yourself, make some close friends and hang out with them constantly. Stay in school longer, go to the library, go out, go to the movies, get a job..etc. keeping your mind active and busy is the #1 key to getting through tough times. the human brain is made to work. Keep up your grades, plan your future, make goals for yourself, live in the moment, realize that there is always something, no matter the size, that there is to look forward to everyday. whether its going to sleep at night or eating a good dinner, there’s always something.

good luck my friend.

ps i would also suggest weed, not even joking. works wonders, helps me realize things in myself that i could never see.

pps i wrote all that while high so good job me! quite proud

ppps i had some spicy chips earlier and now my stomach is making weird noises

weed

You can always go to a foster home..

Not going to try any of these and effects I will never use weed, try to come up with some more positive ideas.[DOUBLEPOST=1545063762][/DOUBLEPOST]

Hey I understand how you feel. My parents are divorced as well. I went through something quite similar to your situation. In my opinion, you should continue living with your mother. From what I’ve read you argue with her a lot and disagree with her views. I faced the same situation as you when I disagreed with my parents views and when I felt they were being very narrow minded. However, in my case my parent actually made a lot of sacrifices for me to raise me with a proper upbringing although we argued a lot.

I think your mother does a lot for you as well, just you don’t see it at times. The best thing I’d suggest you to do is suck up your frustration and deal living with her for the next few years. You should find a side hobby like being here on MCM to make some money. Try being more independent and do things without requiring your parents help. Once you’ve grown older, I’m sure you would eventually realise the hardships your mother went through to raise you and be grateful for it. For now you gotta endure. And even if you feel she was a bitch all this while, a few years from now, at least you have the money and skills to live independently on your own

First of all, not only for your own sake, but for her too, forgive her, I don't mean you must stay with her and stop searching for alternatives, no, I mean, if you are, don't hold grudge, that's only going to affect you in the end, if you retain your anger against her because of what have she made to you, she will always be in your heart in a negative way, I know it's hard to have a good attitude with someone who haves a bad attitude against you, it happens me with my brother, sometimes I try to be nice with him but after some time he acts just really bad, but that can't stop you from changing, you are the only person who can stop the change in you, so don't let the situation get into your mind and heart, after the situation passes, you will see how good it was to be nice with her, it's totally worth it.
I would suggest talking with her after you have a secondary plan just in case the thing gets worse, just tell her from the beginning that you will expose to her what you feel and what you thing about the situation and that it's affecting you, that you want her to try to change since you've been trying to do the same, that you want both to live some good years together but here attitude is making it impossible, but again, I would suggest doing that only after you have somewhere else to go already just in case the situation gets out of control, there are people who gets mad and puts on a defensive position when you try to bring on the bad stuff they do, so considering the instability of the environment it could end bad, just try to orient the talk to expressing stuff and not requesting something, that may help.
Sorry if some text haves bad grammar or doesn't makes sense, non-native here xD, blessings.

Thank you to for these amazing responses I will take these into mind thank you for putting your time into helping me!

 

[Asodey]

Hello,
My parents have been divorced for about 4 years now. I am 13 years old and I can't bear living with my mother. I've argued with her every day now for about 2 years and I can't live with it any longer. I cry almost every day and I would rather live with someone else. I've done a lot of thinking and thought the solution is to just live with my dad but there's only one problem. My dad is a pilot for an airline company and leaves for 3 to 4 days at a time. So even if I was able to live with him he would have to pay someone thousands of dollars a month to keep me (never going to happen) plus I wouldn't enjoy living with someone else half of my life till I move out. I created this forum looking for solutions to hoe I can live with my dad while he still keeps his job. Please help me.

If you do not want to live with your mom, you can live with your dad just like you've thought, yes he leaves for 3-4 days at a time, but I still believe that you can handle that and cook yourself an egg everyday, eat some other food and just learn how to live as an independent person, you are 13, which is a great age to learn some new stuff, you will get used to it eventually. I am sure that your dad does not need to hire anybody, just live like you have someone in your house, but you actually dont. That might be a really fun and interesting adventure for you, it will also help you in the future, as you will know how to be independent. Good luck with your life man, if you need anyth you can dm at anytime

 

[Aekalix]

I know the situation you are in. If you want to talk privately you can add me on Skype: Aekalix and Discord: Aekalix#8582.
I'm going offline now though. Apologies.

I never received a friend request...? That's very odd.

 

[Ambrosia]

that stuff really works!!!!!!!

source: me currently



But for real; stay strong man. it will definitely get better, you may have to tough it through, but let that build you into a better person. Become more independant, learn to do things for yourself, make some close friends and hang out with them constantly. Stay in school longer, go to the library, go out, go to the movies, get a job..etc. keeping your mind active and busy is the #1 key to getting through tough times. the human brain is made to work. Keep up your grades, plan your future, make goals for yourself, live in the moment, realize that there is always something, no matter the size, that there is to look forward to everyday. whether its going to sleep at night or eating a good dinner, there’s always something.

good luck my friend.

ps i would also suggest weed, not even joking. works wonders, helps me realize things in myself that i could never see.

pps i wrote all that while high so good job me! quite proud

ppps i had some spicy chips earlier and now my stomach is making weird noises

You're encouraging a 13-year-old to do weed which is illegal in every state in the US unless they need it for medical.

 

[Theo J]

You're encouraging a 13-year-old to do weed which is illegal in every state in the US unless they need it for medical.

Everybody does ittt

 

[FelixDev]

Uhm, I feel very sorry for how you feel and how you have it. I will always be on discord to talk no matter what. I am very good at listening and being there whenever you need. As you feel right now is just sad. If you need to talk about it further just send me a dc request. L00ting#8928

 

[Ambrosia]

Everybody does ittt

People kill themselves, does that mean that everyone should do it?

weed is good. do weed. addiction isnt real. the only downside to weed is you will probably eat your drywall.[DOUBLEPOST=1545069446][/DOUBLEPOST]
fuck off skank

not even going to reply, just going to sit here laughing at the fact you're also encouraging a 13-year-old to smoke weed.

 

[Mr Wick]

its a medicinal product. if you are going through a tough time like this it would really help.

you dont need weed for sure but it certainly does go well with depression anxiety or watching cool movies. every case is different but if hes predisposed to addiction he could get hooked on weed or catching the higher feelings cause we all know at young ages weed is a gateway drug. if he starts coming much more dependable on the feelings that weed gives him it could definitely make him much more lazier resulting in less willpower and just making his life even shittier, not to mention at this age or really any age below 20-25 smoking weed * a lot * is a stupid idea for many reasons that are pretty self explanatory. but each to their own everyone is different

@op your 13 and maybe thats why your posting this here and you might think its a safe place or you're behind a screen so you might feel as if its somewhere you can ask this stuff. but honestly bro wherever you are there is an adult or counselor or someone you can talk to about your situation that can actually do something for you. coming to a forum can sure give you ideas and some knowledge but you and you alone have to do something about your situation, no ones gonna do it for you kid. now i understand you're only 13 so you probably don't have the knowledge, understanding or maturity that just comes with growing up but read what i've said and go sort this shit out irl. actions speak louder than words and only you are in control of your situation.. if you dont like living with your parents for some reason either suck it the fuck up and just deal with it be fake be nice, unless they are abusive. and i mean actually abusive, not just them yelling at you cause you want to keep playing games all night. thats called parenting for the most part. move out when you're 16, go to a foster home, live with a friend, just find something else and dont play the blame game alright.

and ive just read this as well a comment of yours "So my mom automatically has a very mean tone in her voice and she's super hypocritical she will tell me not to do something then do it herself and she's a very bad role model shes always mad at someone and she yells at me."

sounds like you are the problem as well. might not seem like it cause you could be blind sighted but it probably is. go have a check with yourself cause of course i dont fully know your situation but based on this i would say you are the problem as well and are blaming her.

now im not being mean to you kid or trying to call you out at all, im being real with you. might not see this cause of your age but at least have a read and try to grasp it alright

 

[CedryK]

bruh he listed this on a Minecraft forum and probably got the best help he’s had, y’all about to be the next Dr. Phil

Y'all know that minecraft nibbas got ya' back anytime.

 

[YoloSanta]

not gonna be rude or anything but tell your dad to hire a baby sitter and hope she’s cute or at least what your into.

 

[Ambrosia]

its a medicinal product. if you are going through a tough time like this it would really help.

Pretty sure he isn't needing it for medical.

 

[Wemb]

I never received a friend request...? That's very odd.

I’m sorry man I’m in a tight spot let me add you know

you dont need weed for sure but it certainly does go well with depression anxiety or watching cool movies. every case is different but if hes predisposed to addiction he could get hooked on weed or catching the higher feelings cause we all know at young ages weed is a gateway drug. if he starts coming much more dependable on the feelings that weed gives him it could definitely make him much more lazier resulting in less willpower and just making his life even shittier, not to mention at this age or really any age below 20-25 smoking weed * a lot * is a stupid idea for many reasons that are pretty self explanatory. but each to their own everyone is different

@op your 13 and maybe thats why your posting this here and you might think its a safe place or you're behind a screen so you might feel as if its somewhere you can ask this stuff. but honestly bro wherever you are there is an adult or counselor or someone you can talk to about your situation that can actually do something for you. coming to a forum can sure give you ideas and some knowledge but you and you alone have to do something about your situation, no ones gonna do it for you kid. now i understand you're only 13 so you probably don't have the knowledge, understanding or maturity that just comes with growing up but read what i've said and go sort this shit out irl. actions speak louder than words and only you are in control of your situation.. if you dont like living with your parents for some reason either suck it the fuck up and just deal with it be fake be nice, unless they are abusive. and i mean actually abusive, not just them yelling at you cause you want to keep playing games all night. thats called parenting for the most part. move out when you're 16, go to a foster home, live with a friend, just find something else and dont play the blame game alright.

and ive just read this as well a comment of yours "So my mom automatically has a very mean tone in her voice and she's super hypocritical she will tell me not to do something then do it herself and she's a very bad role model shes always mad at someone and she yells at me."

sounds like you are the problem as well. might not seem like it cause you could be blind sighted but it probably is. go have a check with yourself cause of course i dont fully know your situation but based on this i would say you are the problem as well and are blaming her.

now im not being mean to you kid or trying to call you out at all, im being real with you. might not see this cause of your age but at least have a read and try to grasp it alright

I understand and again for everyone wondering I do not believe weed is an escape, And I think you missunderstood. I like my dad but not my mom, It’s this feeling that makes me depressed I don’t need to go to a foster home or live with my friend I just want my dad, thanks for the help.

 

[Mr Wick]

I’m sorry man I’m in a tight spot let me add you know

I understand and again for everyone wondering I do not believe weed is an escape, And I think you missunderstood. I like my dad but not my mom, It’s this feeling that makes me depressed I don’t need to go to a foster home or live with my friend I just want my dad, thanks for the help.

people can tell you again and again whats most likely happening but you wont understand. in a few years youll come to a much needed realization mate lol. weed isnt really an escape and no one said you gotta do it. do you live with your dad maybe you think youll like living with him because you havent lived with him. but then again your only 13 and so none of this means jack in a few years. if your having suicidal thoughts then its on you, but killing yourself is a completely unnecessary thing so steer clear, but being depressed is somewhat of a choice in your circumstances it sounds like. go and research mindsets and look into them and how they can help you.

 

[Wemb]

people can tell you again and again whats most likely happening but you wont understand. in a few years youll come to a much needed realization mate lol. weed isnt really an escape and no one said you gotta do it. do you live with your dad maybe you think youll like living with him because you havent lived with him. but then again your only 13 and so none of this means jack in a few years. if your having suicidal thoughts then its on you, but killing yourself is a completely unnecessary thing so steer clear, but being depressed is somewhat of a choice in your circumstances it sounds like. go and research mindsets and look into them and how they can help you.

I live with my dad half of the time and have 0 suicidal thoughts.

 

[Mr Wick]

I live with my dad half of the time and have 0 suicidal thoughts.

tryna give u good feedback and knowledge from someone whos first hand with this shit but its more like a brickwall ahahah guess its cause ur age anyway gl

 

[Hycore2]

You could legit just move with your dad, stay at home alone for 3 to 4 days at a time if needed he can shop heavily before he goes.. I understand it might be weird staying alone for a long amount of time, you could always stay at friends houses or something when he leaves for some of the days or something