I'm back to talk about life.

[Costality]

Alright, updates since my last thread on here:
My mom and dad live separately and I stay with my mom who will need to move far away closer to family for a good job and mental support. I really like staying with my mom, but I also like it in the location where I am, the school I go to, my friends, and being close to both my parents. However, my dad very much dislikes the thought of me going somewhere else and often tries to tell me it's okay if I want to stay with him, I have the right to chose, etc...
He's also recently been trying to persuade me to meeting his new "girlfriend" you could say. I always say no and mention how i'm just not ready to meet her yet, but he keeps pushing it more and more.
As usual, any tips? I know there's some pretty smart people on here o.o

 

[Costality]

Friends and happiness are more important then family, my opinion anyway

I've heard it both ways, i'm stuck in the middle honestly.

 

[Flappy]

What's your issue, I didn't completely understand?

 

[Cade]

Do what your first instinct tells you.

 

[Costality]

have you tried creating a list on living with your mum and your location, then note all the good things about it and all the bad things about it, therefore allowing you to see your situation more clearly

Well, i've made a mental list, everything just cancels one another out![DOUBLEPOST=1565395338][/DOUBLEPOST]

What's your issue, I didn't completely understand?

I have to decide: live with my mom, live with my dad.
Flaws of living with my dad: I'll have to visit his "girlfriend" a lot, which I really, really don't feel ready for. Also the bond between us isn't the same as with my mom.

Flaws of living with my mom: I have to move out of the location im in meaning I leave my friends, my school and there is no more in between by going to my dad for one week and to my mom for the other.

 

[AbandonedAccount]

Strange shit, man.

 

[Flappy]

Well, i've made a mental list, everything just cancels one another out![DOUBLEPOST=1565395338][/DOUBLEPOST]
I have to decide: live with my mom, live with my dad.
Flaws of living with my dad: I'll have to visit his "girlfriend" a lot, which I really, really don't feel ready for. Also the bond between us isn't the same as with my mom.

Flaws of living with my mom: I have to move out of the location im in meaning I leave my friends, my school and there is no more in between by going to my dad for one week and to my mom for the other.

Omg...

 

[Karm]

Friends and happiness are more important then family, my opinion anyway

I'm sorry bro but that's not true. Unless you were born and raised in a crackhead family, your own family will always be there to support you and have your back.

 

[Karm]

My family disowned me because I came out and yes I pretty much was raised in a crackhouse :/

Sorry to hear that, hope you do good in the future

 

[TellTale]

Hi. Don't take this as sound advice, it's simply what I would do.

Out of all people I've ever met, there is no one I respect more than my father - he taught me how to be a man, and how to work hard.

Your mother will want the best for you, and will do her best to go out of her way to ensure that you're taken care of, in almost everything, and so this shouldn't be what you choose.

If you go with your father, it's more likely you'll have a tougher time - you'll have more opportunity to toughen yourself up, become a man and learn responsibility. Am feminine presents however can redirect you in the wrong direction mentally. It's okay for women, but men are just not that. We need to be responsible, critical and above all else, hard working. This doesn't come from a book, some packaged education, some therapy session or a chat with someone.

Your father will have a huge impact, maybe it might seem negative, but just having him there will impact your mentality and character. I see too many young people afraid of hard work, or not understanding what responsibility is. It's simply that a mother tries to hard to protect their own, and so you become sheltered. Don't let that happen to you.

 

[Shroomy]

Follow your heart and what’s best for you !